Ten year olds are beginning to deal with issues such as puberty and peer pressure. Children may also encounter bullying, adding pressure into the life of an already insecure 10 year old. All of these issues can reduce a child's confidence. It is important for caregivers, parents and other adults to help 10-year-olds maintain confidence during this turbulent time in life.
Instructions
- 1 Demonstrate confidence. Children learn through example, and even if it seems the 10 year old is not paying attention, he or she notices when adults put themselves down. Avoid letting children overhear any lack of confidence.
2 Avoid labels. Even well-meaning or true labels may have negative connotations to a child who is just beginning to figure himself out. Use the child's name instead of a trait, such as "asthmatic" or "poor reader." Using the child's name helps them remember they are unique and special, which will help build confidence.
3 Spend time with the child. This makes a child feel special and he or she may open up to you in conversation. The activity doesn't matter, as long as you allow the child to lead conversations concerning more personal issues.
4 Assign the child responsibilities. A 10 year old often wonders what she is good at doing, and what makes her stand out among her peers. When a child completes a chore at home or fulfills a responsibility, there is a sense of accomplishment. Children who have responsibilities have a higher level of confidence (Dr. Sears, point 11).
5 Talk to the child about his strengths. Ten year olds notice when kids are better than them at certain activities. Discover where the child's strengths lie, talk to him about them and encourage him to participate in activities where he shines.
